Why do I call myself a creator of Circles of Excellence? No long time ago I was assigned to a team of 197 members and I said to myself: “This is a big circle!” One morning I decided to meditate as every morning but this time for 45 minutes (first time ever!). During such wonderful meditation I could clearly see that my influence needed to be excellent, so I have to create a dedicated circle for my own team. I started writing ideas about how I can bring 197 team members together as a community; how I can ensure that all of them wanted to follow me; how to be effective, and so on. Right then, I started to pair each item of the list with a concrete action. What I experienced during those minutes helped me to create my first Circle of Excellence.
I have read probably eight times the book I call my “business bible”: The 7th Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey. So, when I was working on my action plan (after the meditation) I decided to have my own circle. If you have read that book already you know what I’m talking about. If you have not, well let me explain you just briefly the main idea of that book. But, definitely, you want to read it.
Stephen Covey said that to become self-aware of our own productivity we need to look at two separate circles. The first one is the circle of concern where we should include everything we could be “worried” about, BUT we cannot do anything to change it. As Covey said “things that we have no real control”. Our worries about the world poverty, kids with cancer, crime, pedophilia, other’s opinions, etc., are in that circle of concern. Anything that if we pause our thoughts for a moment, which I know it’s very difficulty, we will realize that we cannot do anything about it from our current corner. A lot of people keep torturing themselves for issues that are not in their control. Not even when they cry and develop gastritis for it. Yes, we can develop diseases due to excessive concern. For example, I just met a teenager, she is 16, and she has developed a severe gastritis simply by worrying about things she could not control. Yes, she is just 16 and she is suffering of emotional stress and needs to visit a psychologist once per week. Her depression and anxiety levels are rocking and her insecurity is also at the top of the roof. I’m not a psychologist, but I know this is not right. Anyway, let me keep talking about why I call myself a creator of Circles of Excellence…
The second circle Stephen Covey talked about was the circle of influence. In the circle of influence resides everything that we can change. All the situations that we can “control”. When I talk about control I’m referring to our decisions and actions, not about the outcome of them. This is material for a future post. But, I hope you are following me here. Okay- that’s all I needed to say about my “business bible” to frame this post.
At the beginning, I was pulling all the strategies in my managerial and leadership toolbox, and started overworking to show my capacities. My ego was definitely winning space here. What mistake!
I didn’t need to do anything but, stop, breath, and understand that I don’t control anything but my thoughts. Then, I realized that the more genuine I could be, the more my team will trust me, and if I was worried I couldn’t be happy. And this last is my real deal (#behappy).
So, my first action was calling each of them. I explained my vision for the team and asked if they considered such vision as something of their interest. Many of them said yes immediately. Many others said no. And, it was fine! I knew that some of them would not be ready for my message yet. So, after those great conversations, I went from 197 team members to 115. Many of my colleagues said that I did a Spring-cleaning.
Stephen Covey was right! The more I focused on my circle of influence the bigger it became. Now, I have a very committed team that is my Circle of Excellence. They inspire me “to give” more every day! I focus all my energy in building this community, pay attention to what I can control, and leave the rest to the Universe (sometimes I call it God). This is the key if you want to create a Circle of Excellence. You must create a synergistic environment.
The power of proactive focus and positive energy is expanding my creator power. And trust me it is not hard- if you enjoy helping others to become their best next version! If you are going to the Leadership in Higher Education Conference in Atlanta you will know about how to create your own Circle of Excellence. I have developed 4 easy strategies for it. If not, you have to wait until the next post.
For now, I would like to leave you with a brainwork (homework for your brain). Create a list of 50 things you are worried about. Include everything from a very complex thing such as the world peace to a very trivial such as the price of milk. Then, start shifting them in two columns. One column you can call it “I Cannot Control”. The second column you can call it “I Can Control”. I guarantee you that the second column will have more items than the first one. We always think we can control everything. At least it is the trend I have seen in my several experiments. Try this brainwork and let me know how it went….
Dr. G